The Power of Shame

Let’s talk about shame. I once heard someone say, “Shame is a powerful motivator.” It is.Shame causes us to hide. An abusive partner will use shame to their advantage, causing their emotionally battered counter part to keep secrets out of fear. Shame causes fear of rejection, fear of unbelief, self doubt, & loss of self …

No Visible Bruises

There is a lot of talk about Domestic Violence. But what about, "Domestic Abuse?" There's a lot of buzz talk about "Narcissistic Abuse" but if only 3% of the population can be labeled, "NPD (narcissistic personality disorder)," where does this leave the women who've been quietly abused by their spouses for years? Who will believe …

“I’ve got you”

Open spousal communication starts with knowing your spouse has your back - the default should be that spouses have each other's best interests at heart and will give each other the benefit of the doubt. If that's not happening in your marriage, it's time for a serious conversation and maybe some help. You should not …

Hold on to Yourself

Living with a toxic person, can suck the life and character right out of you until you do not recognize yourself. Are you becoming easily angered, bitter, or losing your sense of humor? Do not let anyone else’s bad behavior dictate your own! Do not give a toxic person that power.

You do you

Make the decision to not let anyone else’s bad behavior dictate your own. You will be stronger for it - and feel better about yourself. Be in control of your own choices, starting with how you react in any circumstance. Ephesians 4:31“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away …

A word of advice

When someone repeats a pattern of behavior over and over, it’s unlikely they are interested in changing. If that person dodges responsibility for that behavior - finding a way to explain how “this isn’t that” or it’s someone else’s fault, they aren’t going to change that behavior. Stop believing their repeated lies and believe their …

A New Focus

When I first started this site for my brand new Life Coaching business, I wasn’t focused. I was looking at all the ways I could help people and open to all possibilities. Recently, it’s become clear to me that I have a particular heart for helping women who are going through - or have experienced …

Navigating

Sometimes we live in circumstances from which we can neither change nor remove ourselves. It can be exhausting to have well meaning people tell us we need to "just leave," or "change our attitude," or "take control," when none of those things seem or are possible. So what can we do? Navigate. Learn where we …

Spring Cleaning – Are we there yet?

Declutter Organize Prioritize Make a new plan Head in a new direction Start over Where are you in your path? Do you need help to get started or finish your tasks? Life coaching is a great resource to tap into for planning, executing, and accountability.